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Susanne C.'s avatar

I think many people misread the events of the 70’s which led us to the complete destruction of motherhood and home life. Here in America we were in a cycle of inflation and high energy costs which made it necessary for many women to leave home for part time work as cashiers, sales clerks, waitresses. These were not careers, and were not freely chosen paths to liberation, they were imposed by hard times. Our governments became addicted, as they always do, to the extra tax income, and suddenly the entire media machine turned as with a single focus to the glamorous career woman. The Mary Tyler Moore Show and many drearier spin offs showed just what you were missing out on as a stay at home mom, fun, friends, advancement, romance. Magazines screamed from the check out stands the same message.

Everyone seemed to forget that their fathers, often without a high school education, had been able to marry, buy a home, and raise a family, often quite large and even college educated, on one income. That this represented a loss in real terms of wealth occurred to no one.

There was a book back in the spate of simple living books 20 years or so ago that was tilted Graceful Simplicity. The premise was that the really good life requires someone in the home whose full time duty is to care for it and the people in it. Now the author was a Quaker, sufficiently woke for his times to insist that this didn’t have to be the woman, but admitted that it often worked best if it was. This seems an irreducible fact to me, after 42 years of being that person. To provide an actual safe space, as opposed to the fake “safe spaces” of the world, a home in which comfort, food, warmth, clean clothes, homemade meals and handcrafted goods pleasing to the eye and soul are in abundance is the work of an artist, and artists do not work part time at their art. It is to provide a kind of security that is vanishing, and which cannot be reproduced or procured for any amount of money because it is a work of love. This is a lifestyle now reserved only to the upper middle classes, formerly so commonplace as to be taken for granted.

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Shari's avatar

Yes, you are about to find out. Here in Canada children can transition sex without their parents consent, they can get vaccinated without their parents consent and in the future will be able to end their lives through our Medical Assistance in Dying (MAID, what a diabolical acronym) without their parents consent, even if they are mentally ill. Now the state raises our children. I have heard of one father who refused to support his 13 year old’s transition and was thrown in jail. My prayers go out to all parents raising young children in this world today.

As to motherhood, I remember getting part time work in retail years ago. I trudged from one big box store to another filling out applications. There were several questions that always gave me the opportunity to elevate motherhood to its true position and I took full advantage of the opportunity. One was “occupation” in which I proudly recorded the words Housewife and Mother. The second was Work Experience in which I delighted to always ask for an extra piece of paper in which to scrawl my comprehensive list. And the last question Post Secondary Education into which I gleefully wrote, in all caps, NONE. To be honest, my job search became more like missionary work and I really couldn’t care less if I got the job or not:) I saved my list and turned it into a poem. It really didn’t need any editing, there were no superfluous words and when I stood back and looked at it I was overwhelmed with gratitude for the privilege of such a calling. Of course there are many things absent from the list, but I felt to include them was bordering on narcissism:)

Resume

Housewife/Mother

Retail sales

Florist

Baker

Cheese maker

Horticulturalist

Arborist

Landscaper

Animal Behavioural expert

Renewable Resource Manager

Teacher

Fibre artist

Poet

Interior designer

Construction worker

Chef

Survivalist

Butcher

Candlemaker

Event planner

Musician

Gardener

Guidance counsellor

Herbalist

Fashion designer

Debater

Child psychologist

Dog trainer

Massage therapist

Teamster

Sheep shearer

Horse trainer

Philosopher

Secondary Education - NONE

This list stands in defiance to the eradication of our most precious and sacred family.

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